Thursday, May 12, 2016


Have you ever had trouble finding balance in your life?

Yeah, me too ...

When my hubby and I first got married, I observed how he could stay up all night working on an engine (for fun!) and then get up and go to work, and then do it again the next day.

I wondered what was wrong with me. I had no stamina, I could not stay up day and night no matter how interested I might be in something.

After about ten years of this, it was discovered my husband was bipolar. I had been seeing the manic stage in evidence all these years.

We embarked on a journey to help him find balance between the two "poles" of mania and depression. When I say journey, I mean it, for we have not arrived even some 30 years later. We are within sight of it, but still have never touched "ground."

"I think we might be 'out of balance'," was said (or thought) more times than you can count.

What's interesting is, over the years, so subtly I didn't even notice, the fact the person who is out of balance ends up being me!

I asked my husband the other day, "Was I obsessive like this when we first got married?" After some thought, he said he didn't think so.

We can't pinpoint when it happened but I've joined the ranks of the out-of-balanced.

Great ... something else to work on ....

What about you? Do you ever feel you are out of balance? What do you think would help an out-of-balance person?

Mama’s Losin’ It

This post was written in response to Writer's Workshop prompt # 3. Write a blog post inspired by the word: balance.  Visit Kat Bouska's blog, Mama's Losin' It! to read more great content - or link up a post of your own.


betty said...

I do think we are all out of balance in some area or another; that's why it is good to get a fine tuning every once in awhile and see what we need to do to get back into it.


Barbara In Caneyhead said...

I have no doubt my own hubby has issues similar to your husbands. I tend to "balance" well as a general rule. But feeling "down" can lead me to a short spiral of laziness. Also, at times I latch on to a problem and do not want to let go until I solve it. My boss calls it my bulldog tendency. It has it's good points, but it can be detrimental. Other important things can fall to the wayside while I chase my answers. I have learned to shelve it or move it to a back burner. And I've found that the answers sometimes come when I am not consciously thinking of the issue and a couple of times, I have dreamed the answer!
Barbara, blogging at Life & Faith in Caneyhead

Angie said...

I think we are all out of balance in our own way. My husband does the same with working outside all night and then going to work! Not sure how he does it but I've just learned to accept it over the years!

Mama Kat said...

I definitely have my days of being out of balance. Sometimes weeks will go by where I feel like I have my act together and then something will knock me off my groove. It can take weeks for me to find my footing again.

Lux G. said...

I feel so out of balance too. Good thing you have a husband who can balance you.

Simply Linda said...

Most def. I have days that I feel out of balance, friend...thanks for the smiles...Blessings friend.

Linda Stoll said...

For sure. And the out-of-balance issues seem to morph and change over time. And that's ok, especially if we're aware and have healthy ways to respond. Life changes and we do, too!

Interesting post, friend ...

Kimberly said...

I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder after my son was born so it is definitely a balancing act always.
It impacts our relationship in many ways and I think that for my husband - his role as a a husband has turned into so much MORE. I think you might be able to understand that. I think it's the worry, it's the being the "double parent" when I can't be the parent, it's the being the homemaker when I can't be, it's being responsible for me -- it's MORE. And I think that you being somewhat of a "caregiver" almost, you kind of get lost in the mix.
It's so important to take care of you too. It's ok to put yourself first and do things for yourself.
Make sure that you take the time for self care. It is so incredibly important! We truly appreciate the things you do for us when we are unwell. We really truly do.

Christy said...

I struggled with hormone issues for several years before I finally found someone that helped me get back in balance. I'm closer than I've been in a long time, but I'm still struggling with many of those bad habits developed during those years. I've told my husband that I'd love to have a do-over for those few years. I missed so much. And I can't seem to conquer the worst of those habits.