I thought it would be appropriate to share some thoughts on love since since this is the month that contains Valentine's Day. After all, this is the season of romantic gestures such as cards,
flowers and candy. But what does love really look like in real life?
As
I mulled that one over, I remembered a scripture about love:
John 15:12-15 New King
James Version (NKJV)12 This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved
you. 13 Greater love has no one than
this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends. 14 You are My friends if you do whatever I command you.15 No
longer do I call you servants, for a servant does not know what his master is
doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I heard from My
Father I have made known to you.
Few of us will be called to physically lay down our lives for
another; but in this season of emphasizing love, I’d like to discuss what the
very real sacrifice of laying down your life means in day to day life.
First, let’s talk about for whom we should lay down our
lives:
·
God
·
Spouse
·
Family
·
Brethren (Church family)
·
Neighbor
And then let’s talk about how we do that!
God:
Deuteronomy
6:4-5 New King James
Version (NKJV)4 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one! 5 You
shall love the Lord your God with all your
heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.
This
is part of praying The Shema – the passage from Deuteronomy 6:4-9 that tells us
what God wants from us. Jesus quoted the same passage when He was asked what
the greatest commandment was:
Mark
12:29-30 New King James
Version (NKJV)29 Jesus answered him, “The
first of all the commandments is: ‘Hear, O Israel, the Lord our
God, the Lord is one. 30 And you shall love the Lord your God with all your
heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.
’This is the first commandment.
Laying down your life for God is equal to putting your all
into loving Him – all your thoughts, effort and strength.
Is it a one-time action? No! Paul said in 1 Corinthians 15,
“I die daily.” Each day, you make the commitment to die to self (Another way of
laying down your life!)
A practical way to lay down your life for Him: give Him some of the time you usually use to do something you like.
Spouse:
God has clearly told us how we are to treat our spouses.
Obeying often means laying down your life (giving up what you want to do!)
Ephesians
5:22, 25, 33 King James Version
(KJV)
22 Wives, submit yourselves
unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord …25 Husbands, love your wives,
even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it …33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife
even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Submitting, giving of yourself, reverencing – all tough
things to do when you’re down in the nitty-gritty of life, surrounded by
challenges and making a living.
I think it can be summed up best with this thought: Put the other person first.
Family:
Let’s go back to the second half of The Shema:
Deuteronomy
6:6-9 NLT6 And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to
these commands that I am giving you today. 7 Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about
them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to
bed and when you are getting up. 8 Tie them
to your hands and wear them on your forehead as reminders. 9 Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your
gates.
Talk about the Word constantly! Laying down your life to your
family is teaching and discipling over and over even when the task seems
thankless.
The Holy Spirit moved upon Paul to further instruct us:
Ephesians
6:4 NLT4 Fathers, do
not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring
them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
Parenting is like the ultimate tool God uses to make us more
like Him. Laying down your life might mean sleepless nights comforting a sick
child, making sure THEY have a good Christmas even if no one else does, cooking
dinner when all you want to do is veg on the couch, and always considering them
instead of doing what you really want to do. (To name just a few things a parent is called upon to do!)
Brethren
(your brothers and sisters in Christ):
1 John 3:16 King James Version (KJV)16 Hereby
perceive we the love of God, because he laid down his life for us: and we ought
to lay down our lives for the brethren.
Let’s
talk practical real-life ideas where we can lay down our lives for our brothers
and sisters:
For
example, at one of my churches, Sister Sue was going to take over the Senior
Adult Ministry, but she knew another church member really wanted to do it. She
had recently suffered tremendous loss in her life and needed something to do to keep her mind occupied. So, the Sister Sue stepped aside, putting aside her plans for the ministry, and
offered the office of Senior Adult Leader to the church member in need.
I would call that
laying down your life.
I
asked a friend if she could think of an example of laying down your life for
the brethren. Here is what she came up with:
When
there is a financial need and you only have enough to get you through to pay
day which is a few days away and the Lord is telling you to give a certain
amount to a brother. You give it even though it hurts. You put your brother or sister in
Christ before your need.
I would call that
laying down your life.
I
was thinking of a testimony I read the other day. A lady's life was in
shambles. A Christian sister watched the lady's kids after school each day and
had dinner ready whenever the lady would pick them up. She would insist the
lady eat with them. During the meal, and afterwards during clean up, she would
pray with the lady and read scripture with her.
In
other words, she was the friend that lady needed in her life.
I'd call that
laying down your life.
What
are some other things we that could be considered laying our life down for our
church family?
·
Being
a listening ear – even when you are busy or have your own things you’d like to
talk about!
·
Interceding
– not just a lay-me-down-to-sleep prayer – but wrestling in prayer until you
get the victory.
·
Visiting
them when in the hospital (or when one of their loved ones is ill)
·
Taking
food when illness or death strikes
·
Attending
visitation when a church member has lost a loved one
(Have
you ever noticed these events always happen when your schedule is full to the
brim, your grocery cupboard is bare and payday is next week? It’s called laying
down your life!)
These
are not always death-defying feats of devotion but saying no to our own
schedules, giving up our own time, expending energy – maybe giving up precious
sleep, all these are ways to love one another (something we are told to do
twice in John 15 alone.)
I
think this scripture that goes well with these thoughts:
Philippians
2:3-4 Christian Standard Bible (CSB)3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or conceit, but in
humility consider others as more important than yourselves. 4 Everyone
should look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests
of others.
The
kicker is it has to be done with the right motive, pure phileo love – brotherly
love. If you do it for personal glory, you lost out on a blessing!
I
also want to confess I’m not there yet! I strive to do these things; yet often
I let my schedule and my energy level rob me of the blessing of doing what I
know the Lord would want me to do.
Neighbor:
Your neighbor is anyone with whom you come in contact
The story of the Good Samaritan is the ultimate in laying
down your life for someone you encounter in your daily life.
LUKE
10:29-31 NKJV29 The man wanted to justify his actions, so he asked Jesus, “And who
is my neighbor?”30 Jesus replied with a story: “A
Jewish man was traveling from Jerusalem down to Jericho, and he was attacked by
bandits. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him up, and left him half dead
beside the road.31 “By chance a priest came along. But when he saw the man lying
there, he crossed to the other side of the road and passed him by. 32 A Temple assistant walked over and
looked at him lying there, but he also passed by on the other side.33 “Then a despised Samaritan came along, and when he saw the man, he
felt compassion for him. 34 Going over to him, the Samaritan soothed
his wounds with olive oil and wine and bandaged them. Then he put the man on
his own donkey and took him to an inn, where he took care of him. 35 The next day he handed the innkeeper two
silver coins, telling him, ‘Take care of this man. If his bill runs higher
than this, I’ll pay you the next time I’m here.’36 “Now which of these three would you say was a neighbor to the man
who was attacked by bandits?” Jesus
asked.37 The man replied, “The one who showed him mercy.”Then Jesus said, “Yes, now go and do the same.”
The Samaritan laid down his time, effort and money for
someone he met who was in need. Jesus tells us to do the same.
There's a world of people out there who need loving. I want to do all I can do to show His love.