Thursday, May 19, 2016

Lessons from Mother

My mother had to do the bulk of the parenting when I was growing up. Dad was the disciplinarian and seemed larger-than-life to me, but he was not home much.

Much of who I am I learned by observing my mom's example.

I don't really remember her saying I should do any certain thing or act any certain way. She taught us by living it out in front of us.

For instance, we were brought up to go to church every Sunday. Our first Sunday at church was the first Sunday we were home from the hospital. She took us no matter where we lived, even if she had to take us by herself. You had to be sick enough to have a temperature to stay home. I learned to be faithful to the house of God by watching her faithfulness.

We always wore our best on Sundays. We, meaning me, always had to wear those sponge-roller thingies in my hair all Saturday night to have curly hair for church Sundays. (Usually the rollers on one side of my head would fall out so my style was always lopsided.)

We had church clothes, school clothes and play clothes. When you got home from church or school you immediately changed into play clothes.

She wouldn't allow you to say "cuss" words. She would wash your mouth out with soap! (I wish parents did this nowadays, but unfortunately, they are the ones who teach those words to their kids by their example.) I learned to speak nicely by listening to her speech.

We didn't have big birthday parties or expensive gifts when we were kids but you always received something and she would make you a birthday cake and let you pick out the menu for the meal that night.

Speaking of meals, that brings me to one of the biggest influences Mom had on me that I continue with my family even now:

We ate at the Family Table, every night. We all sat at the table and ate together and talked every night of our lives. There was no eating in front of the TV. I learned the importance of prioritizing family time by her priorities.

Of course, in the interest of truthfulness in blogging, the television was on when my dad was there. Because, the News was ON and we must listen, so that cut down on the talking. But once Walter Cronkite signed off, dad was always ready to visit and tell stories and sometimes I'd be sitting at that table listening for an hour or more.

Because there is nothing I like better than stories. I just wish I had written them down!

Mama’s Losin’ It

Today's post was written in response to Writer's Workshop prompt # 3. Share a lesson you learned from your Mother that still sticks with you to this day. You can check out some amazing content on this and other prompts at Kat Bouska's blog, Mama's Losin' It.


Kat Caldwell said...

So true about learning from by watching! So many of us don't realize this as we try to tell our kids to do things that we don't live out ourselves! Good reminder!

Barbara In Caneyhead said...

You learned some good solid lessons from you mother! Very similar to the lessons I learned from my own.
Barbara, blogging at Life & Faith in Caneyhead

betty said...

I think one of the saddest things a family can do is not to eat together for dinner and to choose to sit and watch the TV while eating. It was different with your dad because after the news was over, he re-engaged with the family and it was different then because news was not available 24/7 like it is now. Only time I would let the kids eat in front of the TV were the few times hubby would go out of town for a few days and it helped break up the monotony of him being gone, something different so to speak. Otherwise we too shared many a meal at the table.

Your mom taught you well :)


B Nickerson said...

That's how I grew up, too. I think modern families could benefit from more table talk over a meal then a zillion recreational activities.

Mama Kat said...

It's amazing how influential our parents can be. I try to make it a point to sit at the table for family dinners too.