Monday, May 26, 2008

Learning To Be Quiet

"…the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight." 1 Peter 3:4

Yesterday I was thinking about when I was very little I was a chatterbox who loved to fill every available minute with questions, giggling, and talking. One day, my parents were taking me to visit their aunt and uncle. I remember clearly making the decision that today, just for fun, I was going to be as quiet as a little mouse and see if anyone would notice. Well, I got the reaction I wanted. Everyone noticed my quietness. My aunt kept asking me if something was wrong. I had never had so much attention!

I kept up my quietness for the attention, but I began to notice something. The quieter I was in social situations, the more I learned! People don’t notice a quiet little kid and they would say things in front of me that they wouldn’t have said if I had been my normal noisy self. It was so much fun learning all the interesting "gossip" that I never returned to being a chatterbox.

Another thing, I learned if you didn’t tell what you heard, people would be willing to tell you more things. My grandma always said "You don’t have to tell everything you know." I took her words to heart. And that’s how I became known as a person that would keep a secret.

It’s interesting to see that all this has contributed to my life’s calling: a church secretary has to be able to listen and also not to tell all she knows since she is privy to people’s most private events.

Sometimes I feel I would like to be the vivacious chatterbox I was when I was little, but most of the time I like who I am now. I love when people seek me out to share what is on their heart – at least most of the time!


Elissa said...

I did this exact same thing when I was little on the way home from church one day...but then I got in trouble when I got home because Dad thought I was being rude to you. And obviously, it had the opposite effect on me- I talk all the time and tell more than I should. But it has been way more painful for me to learn this lesson now than it would have been if I could have learned it then...

Joyful said...

I can so relate to this post. I am known as one who doesn't share confidences and I'm entrusted with a lot of personal, treasured thoughts and feelings. It is a privilege, but it is also a responsibility. I need to pray for these concerns and needs and continually ask the Lord to put a guard on my lips when temptation calls me to join in some casual chatter.

You are a woman of integrity!
Blessings today,

Tammy said...

Gee, I wonder if I can get Sarah to try doing this? LOL!